What are LGBT+ people tired of hearing?
07.06.2025 16:58
We have to do better.
“That’s just an excuse to be a sexual deviant.”
We all need to do better. Things have improved but not even close to where they should be. Halfway through the year a teenage trans kid was killed and dismembered. 20+ trans people have been murdered this year. You think it’s got nothing to do with them being trans? Sadly unlikely.
How could Trump, with his deplorable garbage supporters, manage to win an election?
Fuck anyone who plays the bit my other queer friend said that’s dumb.
“That’s not real.”
Duck the gay friends out their invalidating or people and making our community an unwelcoming place.
Afab non-binary and trans folks (ps non-binary people are technically trans, but i said both just to be close for those who didn’t know that) who go to the doctor often experience a lot of gender dysphoria. This can manifest in many different ways and is a different experience for everyone. Some people don’t mind the weird breasts. Others may not even get that flustered over being misgendered, but for some it makes their health journey extremely difficult and depressing. Imagine a parent who has just birthed a child screaming for help dragging themselves to the bathroom, ignored because they were adamant people use the correct pronouns and not use the word breasts. Imagine that. Because it’s happened at least once that i know of and probably much more than that. And this straight mfer who has no clue called his friend who does not have gender dysphoria so they could sit and talk about how people who feel that way are “being too much.”
I was not welcomed into the community when i was outed. I am panromantic demi-sexual and non-binary, but people called me bi-curious, said it was a phase, told me to go back to my boyfriend and stop making a joke of them because they struggled so much, ignoring the fact they were making me struggle more.
My family was not okay with me being gay and though they’d say they are now, and they are doing their best, i don’t feel accepted at all and they still say very hurtful things. So yeah. I needed the community. I’m lucky someone in the community helped me find a job once, even if i did get picked in there in the exact way I’m describing.
It absolutely is real. We are not crazy. We didn’t decide to be gay or trans or any of it. Due to the fact we live in a pet heterosexual leaving world, I’d venture to say most queer kids grew up wishing they were straight, actually, doing anything they could to be that instead of queer. So you’re being an ignorant asshole if you say any of those things.
While I won’t say that queer folks aren’t sometimes deviant, some of us are fairly vanilla too. And that can even fluctuate over time. Nobody becomes gay to be sexual deviant. I probably know more straight people into kink than i do gay people.
One time someone i used to be friends with (and yes this conversation and others are why we don’t talk anymore) told me that being uncomfortable with having your boobs called breasts at the doctors (i am most comfortable with titties, btw, but used boobs for why i don’t know, because most people find the weird tittiea offensive, i think).
“You’re crazy.”
The last one possibly infuriates me the most. Every gray person does not have the same experience. Every gay person will not have the same experience. It’s not even feasible. We really encompass a lot and then inside of that od each individual experiencing their entire life. Some things that bother some people, don’t bother others.
“I talked to [insert name of some supposedfriend they have that is also lgbtq] and they said that i isn’t a real concern and that you’re being whiny and giving lgbtq people a bad name.”